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Friday, 12 September 2025

Against Mother (monologue) Final Rough Draft (4)




 Urban survival game

So it's just you, no kids, pets, partner. 

You're 35 healthy,, no allergies. 

You have to devise a way of having 

the lowest budget possible

to feed yourself.

(hastily said

long evenings ...

hours of darkness

... sudden urge to

tiny little thing

godforsaken before

its time ... 

I have Anxiety because,I'm an over thinker

I lost my mum, suddenly to Cancer. 

Sorry to hear that. 

Yes. 

Terrible. 

Yes. 

I am doing talking therapy because my doctor said  this will probably just be my anxiety.. 

But... but I have REAL pains. 

its a stabbing pain. I'm going to list my pains 


AIBU??? 

to think the worst??

The worst, yes. 

Yes. 

If anyone could tell me if they have the same 

and/or they found out what was it, please? 

Ok. 

I get pain then sometimes I have pain 

when I urinate in the morning especially 

the pain travels 

up to my lower 

left pelvic area.

 buzzing? 

It usually hurts to sit down or walk 

its a stabbing pain. Remember

Yes. 

Yes. 

Terrible. 

Yes. 

In my stomach it used to be just sometimes 

under my left rib the very bottom 

on the left side too but this is almost 

a constant pain now. 

 (whispered ) Meant to be suffering ...

ha! ... thought to be suffering ...

Godddddddd 

... (good laugh) ... 

I have lower back pain 

struggle to walk more & as time goes on. 

Have to shuffle before I can walk properly 

after sitting down. I get mucus in my stool 

sometimes feel like I have pressure 

like I need to do a exit but I don't. 

I have been referred to 

gynaecology 

gynaecologists 

ah! 

yes. 

Yes. 

Terrible. 

Yes. 

But they won't see my until

I take contraceptive pills for 6 months. 

I am also so tired even if I get a good 

night sleep.

It's the boiling frog scenario.

buzzing? 

... yes... 

all the time 

the buzzing  as if in actual ...

agony ... 

but could not ... could not  

all the time the buzzing ...

so-called ... in the ears ... 

(good laugh) 


AIBU 

……the worst????????


I'm not an actively gossipy person,but I am a people pleaser. When people are gossiping 

around me I find myself commenting 

based on what I think they want to hear. 

(ADHD/ASD) therefore 

often do things to try and fit in. 



All the best people I know are impartial. 


My friend gave up gossiping for Lent one year. 


She said it meant she wouldn’t be able to see me until after Easter. 


buzzing?

 ... yes... 


all the time buzzing  

Not sure if this is the right place to post 

as it's not an AIBU but more of I think 

my husband is getting caught up 

in some quite extreme right wing views. 


Complains about how 

they're coming in, 

being housed in hotels, 

not sure what to do about it.  

paid allowances etc. how crime rates 

are now ten fold etc. 


its quite normal to move from the left in youR twenties/thirties when you have all these ideals

over towards the right as you become the ones 

paying for it all with your taxes. 

It’s fairly standard.


 something begging in the brain ... 

Leave him.

Yes.

Yes. 

Leave him.


Jo Malone Lime Basil Mandarin. 

Worn it since it was first brought out 

no other perfume like it. Nothing ever lasts on me.  

(A very long silence.) – 

OK. 

I keep getting reels short videos on Facebook

YouTube of these 'nonce stings'. 

Yes. 

Chemicals? The other day in the UK there was a troubling one where the nonce is having a full on Tourette’s attack while his poor mum

in the background doesn’t know what to do. 

The ones where there’s a partner or parent responding to the situation, or there’s a crowd involved to, do make for better drama -

one clip had 900k views -


obviously it’s very sad for the relatives

shows the damage these men do to their own 

as well as their victims! 

The better stings, hunters are disciplined

in their righteous anger, they’re very measured

get everything in order for the police.


Just all part of the same wish to ... 

I don’t actually know whether

these confessions are admissible in court?


But they have all the chat logs too.

Chat Logs.

I have known paedophile hunters'to have been injured when trapping their prey. 


That's avoidable. 



I am a bit wary of them for a number of reasons.

  

Some of them are obviously fake 

done for 'comedy'


Bit virtue signalling bullying on 

behalf of the 'hunters' (like the episodes of Luther with the vigilante who made online videos) I often wonder 

what motivation these guys have. 

I would not be the slightest bit surprised

if some of them were 

paedophiles themselves. 


the buzzing ...so-called moving 

in the ears  .. yes ...th all the time 

Videoing publishing seems to put them in the place of judge jury and is often for self aggrandisement.  



 so far ... then thinking ... oh long after... after

AIBU? 

AIBU?......How do I tackle this? 


Let's be clear though, people who abuse children are execrable.  

I need to do a exit but I dont. 


I know an sen 'adult' was attacked by one of these groups. He was going to meet a girl for a tea party. It was obvious from the video 

had no idea there was any malice 

in what he believed was happening. 

Going to have a picnic with tea and cake.  

The 'hunters' accused him of all sorts, 

he was so scared and confused. I taught him as a teen, this happened when he was 26, 

they made him out to be a predator 

he was going for a tea party.  


Took his teddy 

thought she would be bringing hers ……..

All of this was twisted for the video. 

He should have 

24 hour care 

but actually got 

2 visits a day. 

I think all child sexual abusers 

should be exposed. 


SEN or not, if you've committed a crime, 

zero sympathy if it's live streamed.


Someone's got to do something about it.

in the skull ... &

Fair play to them.



AIBU?? 

The underclass discuss??

Do we have one? 

Why

Who or what is responsible?

When did it all go wrong?

Is this a joke? 

OK.


What about a secret word you could casually drop into a conversation in any setting to identify fellow mumsnetters? 


Baby group, dinner party, conference, 

board meeting? 


No probs. 


Maybe a word is not discrete enough? 


What about a hand arrangement, slight tic, stutter on one word only?


#Radicalised by mumsnet


Yes. I’d love a badge or a t shirt that says 

“AIBU?”  ??? AIBU  

am I being unreasonable?

Back in the day there were mugs etc. It didn't last! am I being unreasonable


I think the MN merch there used to be set up as a way to raise money for SIDS after a mner's DS died of it.


I've got an MN 'naice coffee' mug - it was a prize in a competition.


loiters near  @louMumsnet's desk waiting to swipe AIBU note pad 


This has definitely got us all thinking 


I wouldn't mind the biscuit featuring somewhere.....  I'd like a scarf in MN colours with 


"When sleeping women wake, mountains move" printed all round the edge   


I just want a car sticker. 


YABU for parking so close! 


Just a YABU one will do.   


You are being unreasonable 50:50 


Yes please, any of the above.  50:50 


You are being unreasonable 50:50 


How about a loo brush !  50:50 


 #Radicalised by mumsnet

on a t-shirt i would definitely get 5! 

AIBU? How do I tackle this?


Tell me about selective mutism ?

 

Everyone has a voice.

I know. Everyo-one has a voice.

Ok. You are being unreasonable. The motto stuck

My son has many autistic traits but is super sensitive to others and empathetic so I assumed he couldn't be autistic. 


He used to run out of the room in the episode when Peppa pig crashed her bike or if someone was getting told off in a film or any emotionally charged film until he was well into his teens (he was much more scared by Inside Out than Marvel films)! 


I've recently discovered that hyper-empathy is actually quite common for autistic people.  


I have always understood it to be a symptom of anxiety, rather than a problem with speech or language - having attended a workshop by Maggie Johnson, a speech and language therapist and UK expert on selective mutism. 


She also did a TV documentary about it years ago. I suggest you, OP try to find any of her work online or in books, to see if she can help you. (DD2 suffered from it at school, but not at home as a child. She grew out of it, 


especially as she did customer facing jobs. 

AIBU? How do I tackle this?

She still has social anxiety in some situations though. My approach to it has always been ‘you just have to try harder’. 


What seems easy for other people requires a lot of effort for me.


We can't all be middle or working class on Mumsnet can we? Come on all you uppers and aristos - reveal yourselves! Tell us what makes you UC rather than MC.


Wondering why you don’t think aristos are discussing their loopy dogs, petulant teens and must haves from Aldi along with everyone else? What do you think the “tells” would be?


My DM would describe herself as UC. Is class inherited or achieved?


UC people talk to each other in RL not on forums, they have very small circles of very close friends. Many of their friends are family friends since multiple generations, they all went to school together etc. They don’t need Mumsnet.

AIBU? How do I tackle this?


I used to work with an "Honourable". They lived in a terraced house in a suburban part of the city. Basically they had the title but no money- so sent their DC to state school and did their shopping in Tesco.


I grew up in Australia where.people are not so class obsessed. According to my sister we are upper MC. I find the whole class obsession funny. It is a quirk of the UK.


My late husband was an honourable (heir apparent to title of baron) and we lived in a little terrace, where I live now. When he became mentally ill he was effectively written out of the family will. They were concerned he'd end his own life and they'd be forced to pay a fuckload of inheritance tax.


I wonder if you are referring to Upper Middle rather than Upper Class. In my view Upper Class is aristocracy and there are very few of them. Those that I do know are unlikely to sit around chatting on MN, but I guess the odd one might venture onto the boarding school threads looking for information. On the whole though, those I know have different lifestyles and have less interest in anything online beyond a few social media posts shared between a limited group of friends (and usually equestrian related).


If anyone is genuinely interested in how the upper class live today, I have just written a book about them which is published in September and available to pre-order now! And I'd say some are on here, for what it's worth, as most are 'normal' people, whatever 'normal' is.

AIBU? How do I tackle this?


 #Radicalised by mumsnet


Against Mother  Can anyone tell if there is a visible nub please? I can normally only do it if it’s very obvious. Please can anyone help, I am dying to know 

cant clearly see a nub. any other pictures?


No idea why, but it's this old classic is a total earwig currently 

Give me joy in my heart, keep me praising, 

Give me joy in my heart, I pray; 

Give me joy in my heart, keep me praising, 

Keep me praising till the break of day. 

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King of kings! 

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King! 

Give me peace in my heart, keep me resting, 

Give me peace in my heart, 

I pray; Give me peace in my heart, 

keep me resting, Keep me resting till the break of day. 

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King of kings! 

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King!

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King of kings! 

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King!

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King of kings! 

Sing hosanna, sing hosanna, 

Sing hosanna to the King!